I have recently become a grandmother. The next generation has been born and I have been bumped up the generational line from parent to grandparent. Since I don’t buy into the conventional story of what it means to grow older, I did not expect to experience such a visceral shift within me.

Growing older in years has always had a positive association for me and I usually liken it to the image of a ‘flower unfolding its beauty and fragrance one petal at a time’, rather than to an arc with its peak followed by a gradual decline.

To me, transitions such as from mother to grandmother are life's way of asking us to examine our present way of being and either gently nudge or force us to develop and grow as individuals.

I wondered how the effort and focus I put into achieving my goals and dreams compared to the spontaneous inner knowing and guidance that I had come to experience many times in the past.

I decided to reconnect more deeply with this inner guidance and wisdom (the yogis call this aspect of mind Vijnanamaya kosha). It is what I have lived by most of my life; that sense that I am guided by a deep knowing; that there is a bigger picture that my rational mind can’t grasp; that I am part of a greater whole; that there is a purpose to the madness and that the answers are within or around me if I care to listen. I knew I had lost this awareness somewhat during my academic studies a few years back and again lately by working in such a focused and goal-oriented manner.

Do you know why you procrastinate? Is it because you are inherently lazy, lacking self-discipline or just don’t have enough will power?

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“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”

Maya Angelou

I love the word thrive. It literally creates a zing in my body, as if all my cells are shouting YES.

I want to live in a world where everyone thrives in their own quiet or loud way. I see thriving as a process from the inside out. We thrive when we connect to our inner wellspring to a point where it overflows and naturally shares itself with others. Like a fountain that draws its water from a deep and pure source.

The word thrive might not resonate with you. I suggest that you find a word that points to something within you that makes all your cells listen up, so you will take heart and live a full and courageous life that brings you joy and satisfaction.

Since working as a life/results coach, I have been surprised about the confusion and misconception among clients when it comes to goal setting.

People tell me that they don’t have a proper goal. They don’t recognize their wish to “feel more at peace within themselves” or to “love themselves fully” as a suitable goal to be coached on.

The truth is, your goal can be anything: finding inner peace, changing old habits, exploring a new career path, or discovering what it is you are really meant to be doing.

I recently read a statement, challenging us to think of birth as “the world’s best kept secret to unlocking the power and wisdom of women”. How different would it be if we celebrated each pregnant woman as the powerful creative force she is and if we celebrated birth as an initiation and a time of great power?

Instead, many of us view birth as somewhat outside of “normal” life, something we do to have the baby we desire or, I am sad to say, as something that happens to us and that we can’t avoid.

Self-Care has become a buzz word with the growth of the wellbeing industry. If you are an Instagram user you might instantly think of #self-care with its display of images of gorgeous looking salads, scented candles, face-masks, or luxury items designed to make you feel valued and spend money. Please don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with scented candles or healthy salads but this is an extremely limited and often not very useful way of viewing self-care.

I have named my new venture Kind Living as it hints at the world and community that I want to live in. I want to live among people who are generous at heart, aware, open, and loving, not because they think or believe that this is how they should behave, but because it is a natural expression of who they are.

When I connect with the feeling-tone of belonging, I want to take a deep slow breath in, inviting life into myself … and I see … ripples emanating from my heart in ever expanding circles.

To me, belonging feels equally like an offering and a gift, that grows from tenderness and contentment within my own being. Belonging has its roots in kindness, first to self and then to others. Belonging is spinning a web, whose source originates within my being and whose threads are spun from radical acceptance.

In the West we have learned to revere the mind and its analytical and logical processing power. This attitude is ingrained in our education system and places of work. It has become so much part of the fabric of our being, that it is difficult to see it for what it is – unless we become intimately connected with a culture that has a different value system, like multiple indigenous cultures around the world.

Self-Leadership aims to awaken the inner processes that allow us to perceive the world, not as black-and-white or linear, but as complex, layered and intrinsically connected.